Alright now were talking, you got your wheels moving foward and there seems to be no limitation to where you can go. You got the gps of the house, the yard but you have not quite figured out what happens if you leave either of those domains.
You know how to work within the sibling requirements and you know your pecking order with them. Now mom and dad have you under constant surveilance you think and they think. The reality is in small town 1960 + they are comfortable with you being outside and enjoying the air. They are not worried about the fact there are no speed bumps nor do they feel like they need to be outside watching your every move or have in you in a chained fence area like you have for the pets.
Hopefully the diaper is gone and you have some good movement. You got the neighbors out there, the fellow toddlers all looking at each other saying "Ok we're out now let's get the party started. The question is who is going to be the one that steps out of their turf to go into someone else's. It's not like it's a crime but it's about approval from the parents. Do the parents not know you just want to get out there and network with your buddies talk about how you are having to eat carrots, peas, apples and see what they have to go through on their end?
Well it's not that simple, the neighbors all know one another and the community all know each others kids. They may prefer their kids play with others vs. the one the toddler is seeking out but either way they will accept and move foward.
Think about it toddlers on the loose. Could we or would we deal with that now? In all actuality we would love to, we want to feel comfortable enough in our environment to let are kids hang out.
During this time the most that could happen is maybe a scratch or something that leads to a bandage. The parents are cool with that, they got a break and the kids got some freedom. Wow freedom the time to take advantage of their ability to engage their friends. They still got the chubby legs and arms a little bit but they are on the loose. Do we care in 1960 plus? I say no, let them explore and be aware and know that you have a community of others that are doing the same thing. They are watching and paying attention but they are giving them the freedom to explore. This builds confidence amongst your toddler generation. It also secure the trust of your friends as you all know were in this together thru band aid and tears.
The toddler sees his buddy outside and of course he wants to do a meet n greet. Kind of like the Dads doing the lawn mowers or the moms with the clothes lines. It's all cool and everything is fine.
Now toddlers get into things and when they join together they sometimes get into things that are bigger than their abilities to handle. Don't worry about it they will learn when you or the other parents step in.
The other thing that is great about this is they are having fun and they are making friends and achieving discovery levels that are incredible with their pals.
At this age they are not competing for a house, a job, a lifestyle the just want to laugh, get a little dirty playing and have a good time.
The other good thing is when the playing is done and they get hungry they wil say see you tomorrow to their friends and come home. No worries because everyone is involved. They may go to the Smiths' for water, the Jones for a snack and dinner at the Robinsons with their parents.
But most importantly they are un-jaded by life and everything to them is like a scoop of ice cream. Taste good and feels good.
Let's all look back at toddler life if we can for us and compare it to now. The other thing about toddlerville at that time you were probably not worried about uniforms, dates, times, competition, winning etc.
The game has changed and maybe the toddler has as well. But wouldn't it be great to just let the toddler in your area get together without the planned activities and restriction and a complete cooperative trust in the neighborhood. Things we have taken for granted. They are free now, they got their sea legs so to speak and they are ready to get after it. Their curiosity is uncharted their mind is exploding with things they want to do. Let's look back and think of how we can bring this all together and take advantage and encourage this developmental process in our toddlers.
Now your saying well that doesn't tell me the story of my or your's toddlerhood. Don't worry we can get their for any of that want to expand their memories, I would welcome it.
It's great time to be a kid as you still are very untainted about life and we need to find a way to give our kids this feeling.
Enough for tonight I hope you read, share and comment
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Saturday, March 27, 2010
First Step
First step is huge, first anything is huge as we progress through life. But as baby about to move to toddler land , what a cool thing to be able to from crawling to walking. There is nothing better than seeing someone take that race to the first step and take off when they complete it all in sequence. You will not see a broader smile from the child or those that are witnessing this incredible event.
First step, first words. Think now all of that could be recorded with a iphone and blasted to the world thru facebook, twitter, linkedin, xing, plaxo, ning, youtube, myspace, millions could have your first step and words online. Well let's not get to dramatic not everyone will get that million impression on fb. Nor would you necessarily want to.
Now the first step is the beginning of your freedom and independence. It's also the next step in keeping up with your family. Now why do we do it? Heck wouldn't you rather be carried around for another year? You do it because you can and the desire to succeed or move on.
Now the playground and the method and social interaction has changed which is great. Now you can chase down your parents, hook-up with your friends. It's all good. You have made a decision to advance yourself inot the next stage of life.
Now come on the first step, are we overworking it for some good PR value. No I am now in play. I can play with the bigs meaning the older kids. I can get to things I never did before. Nothing wrong with advancement. Plus once in a while I can turn it loose and really get out there and discover new things.
Now I'm thinking hey I'm walking what can I do on my own next? Alot of things but you know when you really think about it. The first step is also your movement to the social world. Before you were insulated to your family, now you have broadened your horizons and kicking it up with the neighbor kids.
Also now you've become a measuring stick for development with other kids of similar ages that have not chose to walk yet. Are you the first to the moon? No but you might think you have done it.
See this is how we begin the development of our life's one step at a time. It's great because as our mind and body develop we as a human creature want to explore and discover new ways.
So the first step is huge. It's also even better when all of your little buddies do the same and you begin your social friend supply chain.
Oh, how does that fit into the small town. You know what in a small town they see you go from a crawl to a walk and they help to pick you up and encourage you to keep at it and provide the foundations that will allow you to step thru life.
Again this is new I hope you keep reading
First step, first words. Think now all of that could be recorded with a iphone and blasted to the world thru facebook, twitter, linkedin, xing, plaxo, ning, youtube, myspace, millions could have your first step and words online. Well let's not get to dramatic not everyone will get that million impression on fb. Nor would you necessarily want to.
Now the first step is the beginning of your freedom and independence. It's also the next step in keeping up with your family. Now why do we do it? Heck wouldn't you rather be carried around for another year? You do it because you can and the desire to succeed or move on.
Now the playground and the method and social interaction has changed which is great. Now you can chase down your parents, hook-up with your friends. It's all good. You have made a decision to advance yourself inot the next stage of life.
Now come on the first step, are we overworking it for some good PR value. No I am now in play. I can play with the bigs meaning the older kids. I can get to things I never did before. Nothing wrong with advancement. Plus once in a while I can turn it loose and really get out there and discover new things.
Now I'm thinking hey I'm walking what can I do on my own next? Alot of things but you know when you really think about it. The first step is also your movement to the social world. Before you were insulated to your family, now you have broadened your horizons and kicking it up with the neighbor kids.
Also now you've become a measuring stick for development with other kids of similar ages that have not chose to walk yet. Are you the first to the moon? No but you might think you have done it.
See this is how we begin the development of our life's one step at a time. It's great because as our mind and body develop we as a human creature want to explore and discover new ways.
So the first step is huge. It's also even better when all of your little buddies do the same and you begin your social friend supply chain.
Oh, how does that fit into the small town. You know what in a small town they see you go from a crawl to a walk and they help to pick you up and encourage you to keep at it and provide the foundations that will allow you to step thru life.
Again this is new I hope you keep reading
Thursday, March 25, 2010
The beginning
Everyone has so many different memories of the beginning of life. It's funny sometimes to hear what people remember. Heck when you listen some people you would swear that they remember their first day of life.
Now there are others that the memory only kicks in at a certain point and age or is limited to what they determine are fond times or tragic times. Hopefully everyone has more fond memories than tragic ones.
We also all have heard the strories from our parents age, and I'm trying to avoid locking anyone in any specfic age brackett. Where they start off with things were different, times have changed, and I remember when.
Well as we all get a little older we have some similar stories and they may have some similarities and commonnalities. You know when you get time sometime look thru your old pictures and see you as a baby, a toddler, a young child, teenager, pre-adult and real adult. I bet as you are going thru the process many memories will become re-engaged from within your brain.
All of our memories are there, we just don't necessarily know how to access them from time to time, or we choose not to.
The beginning why this title. You know what I'm doing this without a orchestrated plan and the reality is it all begins somewhere. Look at the world of 2010 and compare that to the 60's, 50's or 40's. Huge difference.
Now they say history always repeats itself. Well I will say not in all cases. Fashion may recycle and that is probably a good thing as there are some pretty cool stuff from our younger years. Also the quality was pretty good and some would say, the best part it was made in America.
Now this blog I hope is not to become any politcal discussion and I don't have enough time to debate world politics in a global scale that could be diversified on many levels.
Well you know what, the beginning always began with a baby in need of attention. A family in need of support from friends and the need of the baby for food , fun and development. The development of of the human psyche is interesting if you have taken and heard the views of scholars on social pysch, elementary psych, clinical, and developmental. Throw in some religious classes, logic and philsophy, economics, history, sociology, and you have a tangled web on how life is supposed to be.
There is a book from Malcom Gladwell "What the Dog Saw" in the book it discusses a group of Italians if my memory is correct from a certain place in Italy that I think maybe settled in NY or Ohio. They ate chees, drank, and smoked and worked in factories and lived a longer life that people who were more healthy in their habits. I'm not saying that doing the above will make you more sustainable. What they the researchers concluded is that they believed they lived longer because they had a very strong social community and a group of friends.
My point is the community is huge to our existence and well being. Ok now I will not be able to make this blog tweny pages so I need to get back to the beginning within reason.
When you are a newborn in a smalltown the whole town is going to be there with you. They are going to be there when you take that first solid food, when you take the first step and when you in my age bracket move from cloth diapers to the real thing. People that you will know for the next 30 years of your life will remember when your were a baby. They will even remember what you looked like. Also they will be able to tell you stories that you have no idea, nor memory of. They will also more than likely know the story of when and how you were delivered and at what time.
That is amazing to have that history of your life be in the minds of so many others brain databases. Because you know what your are not alone as they remember many others as well if not the whole birth year from everyone in a certain year. Our parents understood what it was to need the support of others and to be there when their friends needed them as well.
You know there was a reason in the 70's and 80's so many family shows had high ratings. Times were different and the social was offline and not online. Don't get me wrong online has found a way for old friends to get back together and reconnect.
I look forward to anyone that can relate and remeber their diaper days. I only know what I looked like. Know that wore diapers and I'm sure I filled them many times. I'm sure I exhausted my parents and fellow family members. Also I hope I caused a few smiles for family and friends as I did something they viewed as entertaining.
I hope the beginning was great for most of us and I view it as a great time. No bills, no worries about food, no worries about going to the bathroom you just did it and accepted it.
Thanks for reading, I'm just doing this on the fly and let's see where it goes.
Now there are others that the memory only kicks in at a certain point and age or is limited to what they determine are fond times or tragic times. Hopefully everyone has more fond memories than tragic ones.
We also all have heard the strories from our parents age, and I'm trying to avoid locking anyone in any specfic age brackett. Where they start off with things were different, times have changed, and I remember when.
Well as we all get a little older we have some similar stories and they may have some similarities and commonnalities. You know when you get time sometime look thru your old pictures and see you as a baby, a toddler, a young child, teenager, pre-adult and real adult. I bet as you are going thru the process many memories will become re-engaged from within your brain.
All of our memories are there, we just don't necessarily know how to access them from time to time, or we choose not to.
The beginning why this title. You know what I'm doing this without a orchestrated plan and the reality is it all begins somewhere. Look at the world of 2010 and compare that to the 60's, 50's or 40's. Huge difference.
Now they say history always repeats itself. Well I will say not in all cases. Fashion may recycle and that is probably a good thing as there are some pretty cool stuff from our younger years. Also the quality was pretty good and some would say, the best part it was made in America.
Now this blog I hope is not to become any politcal discussion and I don't have enough time to debate world politics in a global scale that could be diversified on many levels.
Well you know what, the beginning always began with a baby in need of attention. A family in need of support from friends and the need of the baby for food , fun and development. The development of of the human psyche is interesting if you have taken and heard the views of scholars on social pysch, elementary psych, clinical, and developmental. Throw in some religious classes, logic and philsophy, economics, history, sociology, and you have a tangled web on how life is supposed to be.
There is a book from Malcom Gladwell "What the Dog Saw" in the book it discusses a group of Italians if my memory is correct from a certain place in Italy that I think maybe settled in NY or Ohio. They ate chees, drank, and smoked and worked in factories and lived a longer life that people who were more healthy in their habits. I'm not saying that doing the above will make you more sustainable. What they the researchers concluded is that they believed they lived longer because they had a very strong social community and a group of friends.
My point is the community is huge to our existence and well being. Ok now I will not be able to make this blog tweny pages so I need to get back to the beginning within reason.
When you are a newborn in a smalltown the whole town is going to be there with you. They are going to be there when you take that first solid food, when you take the first step and when you in my age bracket move from cloth diapers to the real thing. People that you will know for the next 30 years of your life will remember when your were a baby. They will even remember what you looked like. Also they will be able to tell you stories that you have no idea, nor memory of. They will also more than likely know the story of when and how you were delivered and at what time.
That is amazing to have that history of your life be in the minds of so many others brain databases. Because you know what your are not alone as they remember many others as well if not the whole birth year from everyone in a certain year. Our parents understood what it was to need the support of others and to be there when their friends needed them as well.
You know there was a reason in the 70's and 80's so many family shows had high ratings. Times were different and the social was offline and not online. Don't get me wrong online has found a way for old friends to get back together and reconnect.
I look forward to anyone that can relate and remeber their diaper days. I only know what I looked like. Know that wore diapers and I'm sure I filled them many times. I'm sure I exhausted my parents and fellow family members. Also I hope I caused a few smiles for family and friends as I did something they viewed as entertaining.
I hope the beginning was great for most of us and I view it as a great time. No bills, no worries about food, no worries about going to the bathroom you just did it and accepted it.
Thanks for reading, I'm just doing this on the fly and let's see where it goes.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
What would you like on this blog
I would like to know what people feel about the small town feeling. If there is nothing that is fine, I will keep bloggin and try to find a way to involve you in the process.
Friend and your name
I touched on your name but I drifted off into other areas as well. The fact is we have our name and sometimes that comes with good and bad reputation.
I went to school with no more than 100 people in high school and I can only tell you they all have a very positive name and even better outlook on life. The reality is for the most part we all have seemed to do well.
Friendship is key. I can only tell you that friendship verifies you and give you legitmacy in the world . However most importantly it keeps you grounded and gives you the foundation and strength to succeed.
Hang in there as we try to develop this blog. I look forward to hearing from my friends.
I went to school with no more than 100 people in high school and I can only tell you they all have a very positive name and even better outlook on life. The reality is for the most part we all have seemed to do well.
Friendship is key. I can only tell you that friendship verifies you and give you legitmacy in the world . However most importantly it keeps you grounded and gives you the foundation and strength to succeed.
Hang in there as we try to develop this blog. I look forward to hearing from my friends.
When everyone knows your name
What does it mean to know everyone knows your name? Well it means you have friend and you have allies and yes you may have enemies. The reality is it's important for social engagement for you to know all of the people in your life. Now I have to admit I don't know everyone personally in my 45 home sub-division. Now again notate the word sub-division. The division is taking place within your community. That is not a good thing. What happened to the kids having a free for all playing in the neighborhood. Maybe it still exists and I'm just unaware.
Now I'm starting off this blog with some very real life experiences that we may all deal with in today's world. The reality is it's hitting many of us in major ways.
I think it's important for safety and a social atmosphere for everyone to know each other but however many people just want to lock themselves in their home and could care less about others. I don't have an exact answer on how to overcome the latch-key parents you just need to try to keep working on it.
The facts are this people need to be social, now what is that social forum for the small community. Or how do you make the small community more small and vertical. We all may not have an answer. We also may choose to be like our parents in some ways and say well we cannot worry about what Jone's are doing we need to worry about our family. There is a lot of truth in both areas that need to be explored. However ti's really important as we move foward to understand what we all expected from the small town experience and why to this day we look back at that time with a feeling of happiness or sadness.
The part of this blog is what I'm debating is how real we can all be with each other. It could be very interesting in this was a very open platform but people would need to be willing to share in that enviroment.
Again I look forward to your thoughts and suggestions.
Now I'm starting off this blog with some very real life experiences that we may all deal with in today's world. The reality is it's hitting many of us in major ways.
I think it's important for safety and a social atmosphere for everyone to know each other but however many people just want to lock themselves in their home and could care less about others. I don't have an exact answer on how to overcome the latch-key parents you just need to try to keep working on it.
The facts are this people need to be social, now what is that social forum for the small community. Or how do you make the small community more small and vertical. We all may not have an answer. We also may choose to be like our parents in some ways and say well we cannot worry about what Jone's are doing we need to worry about our family. There is a lot of truth in both areas that need to be explored. However ti's really important as we move foward to understand what we all expected from the small town experience and why to this day we look back at that time with a feeling of happiness or sadness.
The part of this blog is what I'm debating is how real we can all be with each other. It could be very interesting in this was a very open platform but people would need to be willing to share in that enviroment.
Again I look forward to your thoughts and suggestions.
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Thoughts of others
This blog is started to generate thoughts of others and we look forward to your comments and suggestion.
We believe over time this may become something special. I don't want to limit it to special small town however I would like to give the people in Iowa a special place in this blog as smalltown resonates throughout Iowa.
We believe over time this may become something special. I don't want to limit it to special small town however I would like to give the people in Iowa a special place in this blog as smalltown resonates throughout Iowa.
Small Town USA
What happened to the small town. Does it still exist today the way we all remember it? Not necessarily many things have changed I' m sure.
We all grew up in a place many of us may view this as a small town environment and other of us may say heck I lived in big metropolis but I very much had a small town experience.
Now where did all of this begin what it during the little house on prairie stage? Well there is no correct answer to how we feel about our immediate environment.
The question is did it feel small to you? Also what does small mean to you? I will dwell a little bit on what that means to me.
I know when I hopped on the bike after lunch I didn't worry about returning until dinner time and my parents did not as well. I also know they didn't worry about cars driving by and being out in the yard to make sure I was still ok.
Now has the world changed it appears it has. The new parents of the 2000 decade never let their kids out of their site, they are sometimes referred to as the helecoptors moms and dads for the hovering.
The question is when did this happen? I don't know, I'm not sure when we lost faith in our community and the lack of trust.
I don't what happened to the times when I went to the neighbor and asked for a stick of butter, a cup of sugar, or a cup of flour to make something for the household.
What happened to the days when I went to schools with my friend from pre-k until graduation?
You know what why does this still not exist? Is it economics? I'm sure it is in some form. We need to work on that program because we need to create smalltown environments in everything we do. We need to have trust in our neighbors and our friends to look after each other. We need to choose not to be competitive in the subdivision but supportive. Also who came up with the sub-division word it's not a unified word and it doesn't correlate to community
Our parents all of which we know had different principals. They believed in community and social interaction. They may have not agreed with everyone but they knew they were in a small town and it was important to embrace everyones views.
Now what is the point of this blog? Well you know what it's the discussion of the way it was and what it should be in the future for our families. I want everyone to understand what it take to build long-term relationships from people.
A friend is someone you can share all of your secrets with and feel proud that they will be with you during the good times and bad.
This blog is going to explore what is the foundation of this country and I believe it to be the smalltowns and it's sad that many times they are ignored as they are the the backbone of the USA.
This is the first blog of many more to come as we enlighten the world on why the small approach is the foundation of this country and world.
Look forward to your thoughts
We all grew up in a place many of us may view this as a small town environment and other of us may say heck I lived in big metropolis but I very much had a small town experience.
Now where did all of this begin what it during the little house on prairie stage? Well there is no correct answer to how we feel about our immediate environment.
The question is did it feel small to you? Also what does small mean to you? I will dwell a little bit on what that means to me.
I know when I hopped on the bike after lunch I didn't worry about returning until dinner time and my parents did not as well. I also know they didn't worry about cars driving by and being out in the yard to make sure I was still ok.
Now has the world changed it appears it has. The new parents of the 2000 decade never let their kids out of their site, they are sometimes referred to as the helecoptors moms and dads for the hovering.
The question is when did this happen? I don't know, I'm not sure when we lost faith in our community and the lack of trust.
I don't what happened to the times when I went to the neighbor and asked for a stick of butter, a cup of sugar, or a cup of flour to make something for the household.
What happened to the days when I went to schools with my friend from pre-k until graduation?
You know what why does this still not exist? Is it economics? I'm sure it is in some form. We need to work on that program because we need to create smalltown environments in everything we do. We need to have trust in our neighbors and our friends to look after each other. We need to choose not to be competitive in the subdivision but supportive. Also who came up with the sub-division word it's not a unified word and it doesn't correlate to community
Our parents all of which we know had different principals. They believed in community and social interaction. They may have not agreed with everyone but they knew they were in a small town and it was important to embrace everyones views.
Now what is the point of this blog? Well you know what it's the discussion of the way it was and what it should be in the future for our families. I want everyone to understand what it take to build long-term relationships from people.
A friend is someone you can share all of your secrets with and feel proud that they will be with you during the good times and bad.
This blog is going to explore what is the foundation of this country and I believe it to be the smalltowns and it's sad that many times they are ignored as they are the the backbone of the USA.
This is the first blog of many more to come as we enlighten the world on why the small approach is the foundation of this country and world.
Look forward to your thoughts
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